The Joy Blog is here to encourage you to discover the joy in your everyday life.
I write every post myself. And, while I have an editorial calendar, I’m never 100% sure what the week will bring. I defer to new awareness and new experiences to fuel and inspire my words.
However, today I feel utterly uninspired...
I filed for divorce last week. Where is the inspiration in that? Where is the joy in such an utterly sad and disappointing act?
While I stood in line waiting for my turn with the clerk, I noticed the sign for marriage licenses…the same place my husband and I were licensed to marry. Ugh!
Despite the grief that rose in my throat, I had an instinct to take a photo. A small voice in my spirit, said “don’t miss any of this.” Even when it hurts, it’s important to show up for it.
I took the photo, and a tear streamed down my cheek.
The clerk called me forward. I wiped my face and took my place at her window. She told me I had all the paperwork I needed, date stamped everything and gave me directions for the next steps to take.
She was kind, and I was grateful.
On the way to my car, I burst into tears and cried most the rest of the day. When dreams are dashed, and hearts are broken, crying is sometimes all that makes sense.
It’s now almost a week later. And, even though the reality is still working its way through my system, I honestly feel perfectly safe and protected. Not by husband, marriage or any one person, but by the grace all around me that has carried me through a very uncertain time in my life…and, all it asks is that I tell the truth about my experiences.
So here I am week after week sharing myself — including both challenges and victories. What a gift!
It is my deepest desire to be inspiring and hopefully helpful to you…and, you’ve given me the opportunity to be kind, authentic…and in turn, free.
I am very grateful we are walking this path together. Life can be unkind, people can be selfish and even cruel at times. But, how lucky are we that we get to tell the truth about where we’re at, no matter how messy it gets!
So, remember… whatever challenges you are facing; after the tears come hugs, then smiles, eventually laughter and ultimately joy.
Best of all...we get to do it togetha!
And as always, I’m in your corner…
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HUGS to you, Thais! So proud to know you and glad that you are breathing through all of it and getting to the other side of it. Have a good cry...and then make some time for laughter...meanwhile, know that you are loved and appreciated by so many of us!! ((()))
Awwe...Sarah, thank you! Your strength and humor are appreciated, and yes, the laughter...it ALWAYS comes! xoxo t
By using them I meant....well, using them, letting them out, letting ourselves feel sad and crying, strong and yelling “come on world!” I think so many of us push down emotions in fear of looking weak (when we’re sad) or pompous (when we are elated). But it’s fantastic to let our emotions show — you will then find people who want to be on that journey with you and will support you through the tears and through the “hear me roar” moments.
I see what you’re saying...absolutely! Thank you for all of the loving encouragement. I hope you had a most amazing Mother’s Day! xoxo
This made me tear up Thais. Sorry you are going through this difficult time but you are strong and have found strength in yourself. Good for you! And crying is powerful, not a weakness. Our emotions are OURS, we own them and can use them when we’d like. Hugs to you and best of luck in this new journey.
Thanks so much Sarah! It’s amazing what lengths I’ve gone to in my life in order to avoid “feeling.” SO much better for me to just HAVE them;) We all go through heartache of one kind or another...I’m just grateful you’re lovely spirt is on this journey with me!
Also, I’d never thought about “using” them (feelings) as we like...I’m not sure I understand what you mean...I’d love to hear more about that...
Until then...hugs my friend,